I need to sin… What happened to the friend who would put a foot in our ass when we started going the wrong way? I think we often get headed in the wrong direction without realizing it, and I really rely upon my friends to let me know.
There are many slippery slopes to slide down, and in today’s society of “live and let live” we need friends and mentors with the will power to step up and lend a foot or hand, depending. I have been the recipient and the dispenser of this type of action, and I do realize it is often embarrassing to be on either end… but it is needed.
Others may disagree, but I love to be around crotchety old men who tell it like it is. I need these people. They are becoming more of a oddity than the norm and that is sad.
If someone can’t say to you that you are being stupid or that you are doing something wrong without taking offense before you consider if it is true, then you should pause and think about it. An old man once said to me, “There is a bit of truth in every correction whether you like the person saying it or not. It just depends on whether you can put aside your feelings and dig for it.”
On the comments of one of my previous blogs a comment rang true with this sentiment… “its funny how people mince, mix and spin words – me included – in order to defend actions they know are far from Christ-like. Sounds like “if it feels good then do it” allows folks to continue to do it rather then examine what they are doing and perhaps just simply stop doing it.” That comment was directed at me and he was right… partially…I dug for it.
So if you are watching a friend walk in a direction they shouldn’t, then speak up. And if not now, then later. They will appreciate it. It may be a lot later, but that is fine.
Hey Lin, Love you bud. Read up on your blogs again. You had some interesting interchanges recently. But as usual you take criticism well. You write about as often as I do, so that makes me feel better about myself, hehe. Much love to the family in the flyover state!
Funny enough I just read your blogs the other day and started to respond to one but lost track. Responded today though…
I dug for it? What does that mean?
Just curious.
It just means on the face value of the comment I disagreed with it but once I spent time considering the comment I found that I agreed with part of it. So I meant dug as in digging into the heart of the comment for the truth that was there.
i guess this only goes for friends because when I have tried to speak to family about such issues, it is never appreciated it seems. haha
I agree. It seems that we (as in everyone) expect our families to be the most lenient to us.
As an adult I often lose sight of reality due to my own considerations. It is often good for me to hear the comments of my daughters, who have yet to spend a lot of time in the gray area, about what is really acceptable in life. I know the usual thought is that with age comes clarity but I tend to disagree in some areas. Especially in areas where I have decided the moral high road is just too hard.
I guess we could look at our children at the washing detergent Tide. They get the gray out…:-)
Ok Lin, this is totally unrelated to the blog post, but…I want to know how to get stats counters attached to my own blogs. I don’t know if you recall, but I am not exactly a tech wiz
Any thoughts?
OK my friend. I am a crotchety old man, and I greatly appreciate our ‘tell-it-like-it-is’ relationship. But I also have been known to wear a pink shirt AND look damn good in it.
Well… I am not sure what to say. I am sure it was a girl who told you that. I just want to say it is not masculine to wear womens clothes…