I realize that I have things that I am good at and things I am NOT good at. I would even say I suck at them. I try not to voice my opinions about what I am good at or am not so gifted at because there are two types of people…
The ones who if they find out you are good at something they pigeon hole you into that skill or activity and you will always be that person for them. This grows old pretty quickly. The other type is the person who refuses to believe that you actually suck at anything. They think with enough practice and desire you can be good at whatever you try to do in life. This is simply not true… That is why there are things called career fields. Pay someone else to do it!
The first person…give it a rest. We don’t really want to be THAT person for you all the time. Whether it is a computer repair nerd, a math wizard, a counselor, a school teacher or any other profession. Think about it…we may want to pretend that you actually like us for our personality.
The second person…give it a rest. I realize your attempts at persuading us that we are great and have all these hidden talents is actually you trying to encourage us. Really though if you notice that a person is good at personal interactions and has an inate ability to help people work through problems then please don’t encourage them to be a CPA.
Seriously, put down you pom poms. When they suggest they hate doing finances just suggest a good book keeper for them. It would be easier and much more appreciated.
This is just an opinion but…this might be a short list of people who should not seek other opportunities…
singer – seamstress
math major – counselor
designer – carpenter (I watch enough HGTV to know this!)
movie star – anything normal
kid – adult (even though we try to dress them this way)
adult – kid (it is called midlife crises…been there…still there)
software developer – converstationlist
If you are offended at this short list there is a self help book out there for you…if you need suggestions ask the second person mentioned above.
Yeah but I know that you can be a sensitive caring person if you just try harder… well maybe not cuz I sure can’t. I agree totally with you on this stuff though. For a long time in ministry I was pigeon holed as the guy who helps out with _____. I’m not telling because I don’t want to be THAT guy again. If only this could get me out of other things like taking out the trash, being sensitive with my wife and not being a jerk to people. There are things in life that you just have to do. But career wise I think you’re dead on brother.
Nice to hear from you again, I miss the posts of truth!